That mix you made for that special someone you hooked up with after you broke up with your ex but it didn’t work out because they had just broken up with their ex and y’all weren’t ready. Then you had to deal with both heartbreak and the guilt in thinking you led someone on. But it takes two to tango and neither of you were wrong. Give them that mix, cause in the back of your mind you’re both curious about what could have been. Probably some month long sexual odyssey and then tumult. One of you strives to become conservative, the other takes on the eclectic lifestyle only lived by people like Grimes.
Elongated version: Things start getting get gender specific, you’re ashamed. Chivalry is dead for both men and women and you don’t know what’s expected of you. You try to exploit that in your significant other through a facade of ambivalence. You get into a lot of fights at music venues. Sex becomes more violent, “kinky.” You break up and talk shit about each other, but not nearly as much as you talk about your other ex. What a bummer. You move to another city. You bring all of your polaroids hoping one day you can give one to your first love. You love each other so much and aren’t confident enough in yourselves to say it. But that’s okay because you’re in a new city that you love and they can visit and you can have sex inconsequentially. If you choose a nice city with a great nightlife you can go out on the first night they visit. But we all know that no sex is inconsequential and that you move to a city where you weren’t considering the nightlife. You go to a local restaurant and have a local beer and have sexy after catching up. They don’t tell you they’re seeing someone because they expected things to be inconsequential just like you did but now you’re falling for each other again. Kind of like when you both hooked up with people immediately after breaking up. They find something they own in your new house and remind you. You never break down and ask them to just stay with you because that opens up the actual emotional “can of worms that needs to occur.” It could go on forever, but after a few days they leave ad you both think that the visit/trip was pretty great all things considered. You both managed to keep your feelings at bay in such a manner that makes you feel sane and civil, when you really know that it’sinsane to hold things from those you love for so long, and to accept that they’re gone from your life. Michael Jackson, Zapp and Roger, Lush, BoA, John Coltrane, Musiq Soulchild, Slowdive, King Kahn and the BBQ Show.